A Reflection on Relational Structures from Parenting to Politics
The Silent Geography of Power: Invisible Configurations in Relationships
In parenting, social relationships, and of course politics, a deep understanding of the concept of “power” is of great significance. The way power is positioned is closely linked to hierarchy, generational differences, boundaries, and constraints. Both parents and states occupy a superior position in the hierarchical structure when compared to children and citizens, respectively. This position inherently carries a responsibility. However, the responsibility that comes with power can also present the risk of misuse or abuse. The abuse of power by those “above” in the hierarchy—whether individuals or institutions—is often easier to recognize and, to some extent, predict. However, how those “below” may abuse or distort power is more complex and requires careful consideration. Importantly, such misuse is frequently shaped—whether by negligence or intentional guidance—by those in higher positions. No level of hierarchy functions entirely in isolation from the others.
The Ontology of Boundaries: The Role of Limitation in Individual Development
For instance, not fulfilling every desire of a child, and the occasional confrontation with limits and restrictions, is necessary. It is essential not only for the child’s psychological development but also for their social integration. Some parents, however, attempt to fulfill all of their child’s desires, thereby trapping them in a fantasy world rather than helping them build healthy boundaries. In such cases, the parent offers not only a role but also a reflection of their own powerlessness.
The Crisis of Directionless Power: The Disintegration of Inner Authority
Just as a politician who fails to question the direction and quality of their power—or a group that views itself as hierarchically superior to others—can ultimately harm society, the world, and themselves, so too can a parent who is unable to define direction in the relationship with their child, or who fails to build a distance between desire and reality, fall into a similar impasse. In such scenarios, the child does not merely become the stage upon which the parent enacts their quest for gratification; the parent too becomes incapable of bearing the weight of their position. One who cannot manage or shape their power eventually drifts away from their own inner authority. Thus, abuse is not only directed outward—it also turns inward, toward the bearer of power, resulting in a subtle, disorganized, yet profound loss.
Conclusion: Bearing Power, Constructing Boundaries
No hierarchy functions in a single direction. Power is continually shaped through the interplay between those above and those below. The crucial question is: to what extent is this shaping a conscious process?
